Likes & Favorites: “Adulting,” Defined

Adult•ing (verb): The act of trying to be an adult, categorized by a general state of confusion, freedom, happiness & exhaustion, with an onset about age 22 or 23. Similar to freshman year of college, except now you’re just a freshman of real life.

Hi, my name is Kasia and I’m currently adulting.

This term “adulting” has recently popped up among my friends, and I feel like it perfectly describes where we are right now. We are not really adults, we’re merely pretending we are because we have no clue what we’re doing. “Adulting” is not the same as “being an adult.” Adulting is being professional during the work week and then acting like a college kid on the weekends.

I realize why most people fear adulthood. It’s when you have to have all your sh*t together all. the. time. Gone are the days where you can sleep through your 8:30 class, throw on sweatpants and drown your fatigue in lattes (okay, we can still do that last one). Now we have to show up, work hard and be responsible.

I’m not saying I don’t enjoy it. I’m just saying adulting is a weird place to be in. Every adult doesn’t remember “adulting” but every college grad wants it to run its course.

Maybe it’ll all make sense eventually (here’s hoping right?). But until then, here are some of the things that I’ve liked while going through this (weird/fun/confusing) transition.

The Birchbox for clothes

Adults need good clothes right? And when do I really have time to shop? Luckily, there’s something called StitchFix and it’s amazing. Basically you fill out a comprehensive style profile, throw in your Pinterest style board (we all have one) and a *~stylist~* picks clothes for you and sends it to your door. It’s a $20 styling fee that goes to your first purchase, then you pay for what you keep and send back the rest for free. It’s basically perfect. Click here and get started because you don’t have an excuse not to.

Healthy ice cream

Summer may be over but that doesn’t mean the heat is. I was really craving ice cream one night but didn’t feel like going out to WaWa to get some (#struggles), so I created my own ice cream. Bonus: it’s healthy.

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{Ingredients: 1 banana | Handful of strawberries | 1 cup of milk| Coconut flakes (optional)| Chocolate chips (optional)}

Prep time: 5 minutes | Cook time: 5 minutes

1.  Peel and slice the banana. Cut up the strawberries. Put in a freezer bag and freeze for a couple hours.

2. Throw fruit into a blender with the milk. Add coconut (or other frozen fruit!). Blend well.

3. Put back into the freezer for about an hour.

Easy. Delicious. Healthy.

Spontaneously American

Sometimes I do this thing when I make spontaneous decisions while I’m slightly under the influence of alcohol (See here for an example). Last weekend was Made In America, a two-day music festival in Philly and this year Beyonce was headlining. On Friday night, I bought tickets for Saturday to go with Ryan, his best friend Gabes and the ever fabulous Krista. No, I couldn’t really afford to go, but yes it was worth the memories. Adulthood means responsibility, but without spontaneity, what’s the point of being young?

My big girl apartment

Big moves last weekend for my big girl apartment. In approximately 8 hours, my family and I (with the help of Haley!) assembled a bed frame, IKEA dresser and couch. And then Haley and I bought a rug from the Home Depot. Pro tip: hit up the Depot if you’re looking for quality yet cheap rugs. It’s literally the softest rug I’ve ever felt, btw.

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{It’s getting there!}

Jams on Jams

If you haven’t heard Downtown by Macklemore, listen to it immediately. Also watch the music video because it’s epic.

I also made a playlist of feel good jams because why not? It’s a work in progress, so if you have any suggestions let me know!

Liking having free weekends & Favoriting not having homework

The Best Reads for Book Lovers (ft. Ryan)

I am a self proclaimed book snob. I live for thought-provoking, life-changing, insanely-addicting books hot off the bestseller list. Conversely, I die a little inside when I waste my time with mediocre plot lines and 2-dimensional characters (Read about my Sweet Spot theory here).

On more than one occasion, I’ve been asked for book recommendations. It might be because I am a book snob, but more likely it’s due to the fact that I’m an avid reader and devour books at a fairly impressive rate (my friends were amazed I finished 3 whole books over spring break alone). I’m also one of those weird people who re-read books constantly, and I’m more likely to cry at a book than during a movie (whatever, judge me for it). Regardless, I read a lot of books.

I’ve decided to compile a list of my all time favorite reads, some on the bestseller lists & some not, so you’ll always have something good to read. I’ve also recruited the help of my boyfriend, Ryan, because 1. he’s a huge book nerd like me and 2. it’ll help me round out my “girly” books with some more masculine reads for all you men (or women!) out there.

Let’s get cracking.

Kasia’s Picks

If you like Jodi Picoult but got tired of her old stuff… Her new stuff is awesome. Although I will always love Nineteen Minutes, My Sister’s Keeper and The Pact, they all have similar themes. However, I read her two most recent books, and they’re enthralling. The Storyteller is great if you like WW2, multiple plot lines and complex characters, while Leaving Time has such a subtle plot twist that you’ll almost miss it but won’t because your mind will be blown. Still craving some old Jodi classics? Salem Falls is a modern version of The Crucible but 100% more engaging.

If you liked Gone Girl You’ll like Sharp Objects by Gillian Flynn even better. It’s cringe-worthy and disturbing and you’ll never guess who did it. Just don’t read it at night. (Ryan: I totally agree with this one.  I don’t know if I’ve ever cringed more while reading a book.  Some characters in particular are just downright creepy.  Highly recommend it.  My mom loved it as well if you needed anymore encouragement.)

If you’re interested in narrative non-fiction… I suggest you give it a try. Specifically, I think you should give Columbine by David Cullen a try. Cullen spent years researching the Columbine shooting to create a seamless narrative of the event. While I was reading it, I almost forgot it was non-fiction. I highly recommend this one.

If you want a girly, easy read that will remind you of high school… The Truth About Forever by Sarah Dessen is one of my all time faves. I think I’ve read it up to 5 times. It’s simple. It’s easy. It’s a feel-good read.

If you’re a psych nerd and love the movie Black Swan You’ll love reading a psychological thriller, too. Before I Go To Sleep by S. J. Watson is a mystery, psych thriller that will keep you guessing the whole way through. Forget The Girl On A Train (which is so overrated), Before I Go To Sleep is much, MUCH better.

If you’re craving some 9th grade English class staples… No? I’m the only one? Well in the off chance you’re looking for a classic novel similar to something you read in high school, I suggest Far From The Madding Crowd by Thomas Hardy (it’s going to be a movie soon!) or The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan. Far From The Madding Crowd is like a more entertaining version of Jane Eyre while The Joy Luck Club is perfect if you like multiple storylines with timeless, familial themes. (Side note, I would also recommend The Scarlet Letter but I’m pretty sure I’m the only one in the world who likes it.)

If you want to see how much you’ve changed since you were 13… Re-read either The Great Gatsby or The Giver. Both were way too deep for my poor pubescent brain to comprehend but reading them post college finally made me realize why they’re classics.

If you hated all my suggestions thus far… Here are some honorable mentions: Gemini by Carol Cassella | Firefly Lane by Kristin Hannah | Dark Places by Gillian Flynn | The Lovely Bones by Alice Sebold | Turn of Mind by Alice LaPlante | Slumdog Millionaire by Vikas Swarup

Now for the “guy” books.

Ryan’s Picks

What’s up ya’ll.  In case you’ve zoned out and are currently day dreaming about all of the unforgettable characters and jaw dropping plot twists you have in your future, I’m Kasia’s better half, and, as advertised above, am also a huge book nerd.  In case you doubt me, I read the entire Twilight series.  Of my own accord.  Yes, that means I willingly did this.  Yes, I get judged for that often.  Yes, I’m totally okay with that.  Haters gon’ hate.

Anyway, assuming you haven’t lost all respect for me and are still reading this, here are some of my personal favorite reads.

The Truth About the Harry Quebert Affair: A Novel by Joel Dicker–Don’t let the annoyingly rhyming title deter you.  This is Dicker’s first novel, and boy is it an impressive one.  Essentially a whodunnit on steroids, this “book within a book” (yup, you heard me.  Bookception.) has so many twists and turns and surprise information thrown at you during the last 200 pages or so, it’ll leave your head spinning.

Summer House with Swimming Pool by Herman Koch–Pretty much every character in this book is a despicable person, and that’s what makes the story so interesting.  Morality is called into question all throughout the novel, and Koch does an excellent job of keeping the story going with an addictive mix of foreshadowing, wry humor, cynicism, and shock value.  I squirmed, I laughed, I pondered.  Definitely recommend it.

Defending Jacob by William Landay–Such a good book.  Assistant district attorney Andy Barber is horrified when a teenage boy is found murdered in their small Massachusetts town, and even more horrified when his teenage son Jacob is accused and arrested for the murder.  Being his father, Andy will do anything to protect him.  Absolutely heart breaking ending to this book that I still vividly remember over a year later.  Read it.

The Son by Jo Nesbo–Excellent, dark crime novel about a heroin addict who takes the fall for crimes he doesn’t commit just so he can score some more of the drug as payment for admitting his guilt and wasting his life away in a jail cell.  When he finds out that his father, whom he thought killed himself, was actually murdered, he escapes and sets out for revenge against everyone who played a part in the murder.  A lot of people die in this book, I’m just warning you, but they die in really spectacularly clever ways.  Containing its fair share of plot twists, Nesbo does a great job of crafting a gripping read.  I found myself rooting for “the son,” regardless of the moral dilemmas raised by his actions.

The Millennium Trilogy (The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, The Girl Who Played with Fire, and The Girl Who Kicked the Hornet’s Nest) by Stieg Larsson–I was told before making this list not to put any “basic” books on it that everyone has heard of, but to hell with that.  This is probably my favorite series of all time.  If you can get past the first few hundred pages of the first book, which are pretty slow, you’ll love this series.  It’s haunting, violent, sexy, and slightly far fetched at certain points (if you’ve read it, you know exactly what I mean), but impossible to put down.  I absolutely loved these three books, and highly, highly, highly recommend giving them a chance.  The movie is also worth watching, just make sure you’re by yourself.

The Divine Comedy by Dante Alighieri–I wasn’t lying when I said I was a huge book nerd.  I only had to read the The Inferno for one of my classes my freshman year at Nova, but I liked it so much that I read Purgatorio and Paradiso too.  I found the different people Dante comes across in Hell, Purgatory, and Heaven to be really interesting, as I recognized many of them.  Not a very difficult read, but allows your imagination to run wild.  Plus, it makes Hell sound really, really terrible, in case you needed any more reason to avoid getting sent there.

There you have it.  My picks for great reads.  I’m not done yet, however.  I figured I would also mention some books that are on my to read list in the near future, just as a few extra suggestions for those of you especially book hungry.

Ok, I’m done with books now, I promise.  I hope there’s at least one book in all of those recommendations/future reads that I’m excited about that tickles your fancy.  If not, I’m sorry and hope to do better next time.  Until then, if somehow you’re still in need of some recommendations, I have an awesome little bookstore in my hometown (shout out to Madison, CT) called RJ Julia that has a staff recommendation section on their website, several books of which I’ve read as a result of checking it out.  Scroll down to the bottom of the page to staff suggestions, and click on “see more suggestions” to see the entire list yourself, which is updated periodically as the staff reads more amazing books.  Happy reading ya’ll, and hopefully I’ll be back soon for round two.

Liking having more time to read & favoriting dating a fellow book nerd.&.

10 Random Things You Need On Moving Day

Happy one week anniversary to my new apartment! It’s kind of bizarre to think about how literally a week ago I was packing up all my personal belongings & getting ready for my first week at my big girl job. And I haven’t written in a while because, well, my life has been a little hectic these past seven days. (Let’s just say we didn’t have a working refrigerator until yesterday & I had to sit outside of a closed Starbucks to steal wifi to get online help to set up OUR wifi.)

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