Finding Your Values

Values. We all have them. If someone asked you, “what are your values?” You could probably rattle them off pretty easily: loyalty, honesty, kindness, compassion, hope, etc. etc.

But how often to you *consciously* think of your values during your everyday life? If you’re like me, not super often. They’re there, I can tell you what they are, but do I think about them frequently? Not really.

The reason I bring this up is because recently a friend of mine did this pretty easy/cool self-reflection activity where you pin-point your top 5 values. Five. That’s it. And not only  do you recognize your top five, you rank them. I gave it a shot and wow, it was eye-opening (in a good way ;)) While I knew what I valued in life (as I’m sure you all do), it was pretty interesting to see what my top 5 truest values were. And since I did the activity myself, I’ve found myself thinking about my values way more often (& bringing them to mind consistently has definitely changed my perspective on things).

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Live Like a College Senior

Around this time every year, I get a little nostalgic for my second semester of senior year of college. Truth be told, those 5 months were some of the happiest/most fun of my life. Of course it was partially because I was at my favorite place/second home with my absolute favorite people, but it was also my “senior year mentality” that made me so happy. It kind of got me thinking–while it’s impossible for the real world to exactly resemble that last semester of college (sorry to burst your bubble), we can take some of that senior year mentality and apply it to our lives now. I think we all get a little caught up post-grad about how “old” we are since we’re “adults.” But in reality, we are still so young & should rightfully act like it. So here are some aspects of that second semester mentality that can be applied to everyday life. Sure, we can’t act exactly like a college kid in the real world (probably for the best), but we can start to think like one.

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the epitome of my senior year^^

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When did we become so afraid of everything?

I find that some of the best conversations occur after midnight.

The other weekend I was hanging out with two of my friends, casually drinking beers & having deep life chats (one of my favorite pastimes). We got on the topic of meeting people & the concept of “no new friends.” Fortunately, we all left college with a solid group of amazing friends & found ourselves feeling anxious when we had to interact with new people. My one friend said she legitimately tenses up when having to make small talk & I admitted I’ve found myself feeling skittish when meeting new people.

That surprised me.

For one thing, I would not describe myself as “skittish.” I don’t think I’ve ever been skittish or avoidant of any social situation in my entire life. I’ve been an extrovert since I’ve been five & habitually over-confident (sometimes edging on cocky). And yet there I was admitting that I felt skittish when meeting new people.

You know what I realized? I’m scared. And it’s not only me–we’re all pretty scared.  Somehow, slowly, we’ve become a generation of cowards. 

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