How to Honor Here

According to Google the dictionary,  a “transition” is defined as “the passage from one state, stage, subject, or place to another,” or “a movement, development, or evolution from one form, stage, or style to another.” There’s also a third definition of: “an abrupt change in energy state or level (as of an atomic nucleus or a molecule) usually accompanied by loss or gain of a single quantum of energy.” (#science)

Transitions. They happen to us frequently, unexpectedly & sometimes, annoyingly.

When I think about transitions, I think about a flurrying of events. Sometimes they’re big events but often time they’re smaller–a series of seemingly insignificant occurrences that rapidly accumulate to create this bigger transition. When I think of transitions, I think of things happening (kind of like that atomic nucleus definition). Nothing is standing still, everything is moving and dynamic.

But what I didn’t realize is that transitions can be prolonged, too. Sure, some transitions are quick & defined–going to college, starting a first job, getting married. But in normal everyday life, sometimes transitions stretch out for long periods of time–weeks, months, even years. There are slow shifts, imperceptible changes that you don’t realize are happening until the full transition is over. They leave you antsy & anxious, like you know something is happening but you can’t put your finger on what. A transition is not the starting point, nor is it the destination. It’s the inbetween part, limbo part, the changing part.

This is how I imagine our 20’s: a series of long transitions.

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honor here & be kind (to yourself)

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self care is important

7 Easy Ways to Practice Self-Care

I first heard the term “self-care” at my old job at a healthcare PR agency. Part of my job (and TBH, my most favorite) was working with bloggers/online health advocates who were living with chronic illnesses. Self-care was always an important topic of conversation–it was imperative for them to listen to what their bodies/minds needed, especially during times when they were in constant physical pain.

Ever since I was exposed to the notion of “self-care,” it seemed to pop up everywhere, for everyone (not just those living with a chronic condition like I originally thought). New articles and studies about how important it is for us to take care of ourselves, because apparently Americans, in general, are pretty terrible at it. I also started to realize that I didn’t really “practice self-care” up until this point. It’s not that I didn’t take care of myself–I’ve always eaten pretty healthy & exercised regularly–but truly practicing self-care takes a little more intention and awareness.

Within the last few months, I started making an effort to practice self-care & I’m baffled why I didn’t do it sooner. First of all, it feels great & makes you really happy, which seems super obvious because that’s the whole point of self-care, but you don’t realize it until you do it consistently. Second, self-care can really be whatever you want; there are no strict rules because it’s about listening to yourself about you want/need. At first, I experienced a weird sense of guilt because it felt like I was treating myself for no real reason, but once I got over that and realized  I deserve to be nice to myself (because again, obviously), self-care actually became really fun & something I look forward to.

If you’re new to this whole self-care thing, here’s a simple list to get you started. Everything below takes between 30 seconds and an hour to complete, making it easy to incorporate it into your day. Again, self-care can be anything you want it to be–it’s all about making yourself feel good–physically, mentally & emotionally–because you deserve it. Enjoy!

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My Thoughts On ’13 Reasons Why’

*Hi there. Just wanted to mention that this post contains a few spoilers. Additionally, ’13 Reasons Why’ and this post may be potentially triggering to some individuals–please watch & read at your own risk. 

Wow. 13 Reasons Why. It’s pretty much the only thing I can say about it, having finished it a week ago: wow. 

By now, I’m sure you’ve heard of the Netflix original series, 13 Reasons Why, based on the popular young-adult novel written by Jay Asher. In brief, 13 Reasons Why is about a girl, Hannah, who commits suicide and leaves behind 13 cassette tapes explaining the events that lead up to her death. Each tape is dedicated to a different person & each represents a reason why she decided to end her life.

To say this series is intense is an understatement. To say that it’s just another binge-worthy series on Netflix doesn’t do it fair justice. From the very first episode, I was sucked into the story, characters and the overall message of the show. I was tempted to watch the entire series in one sitting, but ended up having to stop after a few episodes because the whole story is extremely heavy. It stuck with me even when I wasn’t watching it; I often thought about in between viewing each episode.

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