“It’s all taken care of”

To recap all of Kasia’s deep-life posts:

And while these are all good & dandy and serve as some nice lessons at different times of your (and my) life, they’re kind of pointless without one thing:

Trust.

(Also see: faith, chilling the f*ck out in general).

I can say timing is everything, honor where I am & aim to let go, but am I truly good at believing and trusting that everything’s going to work out/be okay without my complete control over it?

Lol. Sure.

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How to Deal with Disappointment

To be honest, this post has been sitting in my drafts since early March. Mostly because 1. I had more inspiration to write other posts (it happens to all bloggers) and 2. I had to figure out actually how to deal with disappointment myself (it’s a bit of a process!)

Back in March, I got some disappointing news. Upon hearing that news, of course I felt a slew of emotions: sadness, frustration, hopelessness, doubt, anger. But what really rang true was disappointment. Things didn’t work out the way I had hoped & I was truly just… disappointed.

Disappointment is interesting. It’s a little more complex than other emotions & it’s honestly something that we will all feel (to varying degrees) throughout our lives. So here are a few things that helped me wrestle with disappointment. Hopefully some of these tips help! But of course, you know yourself best so always trust you have everything you need to take care of yourself. You got this.

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When did we become so afraid of everything?

I find that some of the best conversations occur after midnight.

The other weekend I was hanging out with two of my friends, casually drinking beers & having deep life chats (one of my favorite pastimes). We got on the topic of meeting people & the concept of “no new friends.” Fortunately, we all left college with a solid group of amazing friends & found ourselves feeling anxious when we had to interact with new people. My one friend said she legitimately tenses up when having to make small talk & I admitted I’ve found myself feeling skittish when meeting new people.

That surprised me.

For one thing, I would not describe myself as “skittish.” I don’t think I’ve ever been skittish or avoidant of any social situation in my entire life. I’ve been an extrovert since I’ve been five & habitually over-confident (sometimes edging on cocky). And yet there I was admitting that I felt skittish when meeting new people.

You know what I realized? I’m scared. And it’s not only me–we’re all pretty scared.  Somehow, slowly, we’ve become a generation of cowards. 

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